Book Introduction 本紹介

「会社行きたくない」と泣いていた僕が無敵になった理由　加藤　隆行

①自分と良い人間関係を作る

ダメなところもそれで良いと認めてあげる。自己肯定感を身につける。

②自己肯定感が足りないとどうなるか

周りを攻撃して自分の正当性を認めさせたり、どうせ自分なんかと卑下したり常に周囲から攻撃をされている気分になる。結果周りとは良い人間関係を築けなくなる。

③敵はいない。皆自己否定と戦っているだけ。

嫌なやつとレッテルを貼らずに何故そのような行動に走ってしまうのか相手の事情を考え共感してあげよう。他人の良いところを見よう。

ただ、相手の事情は考えてあげても同意はしなくて良い。相手の機嫌は自分の責任ではない。

④イラついた時は自分の思い込みが浮かび上がる時

こうしないといけないのに、周りはこうしない。でも周りの方が楽に生きていると思う時がある。しなくてはいけないというのは思い込みに過ぎない。こういう選択肢もあるけど私はこうしたいと思うようにすれば周りに対してイラつかない。

⑤わがままは人を使って自分を幸せにしようとすること。自分を大切にするとは自分で自分を幸せにすること。

How I change from being sick of work to be invincible.

Takayuki Katou

1 Create a good relationship with yourself.

 Acknowledge that it’s okay to be bad. Develop a sense of self-affirmation.

2 What happens when people don’t have enough self-esteem?

They will attack those around them to make them feel validated, or they will belittle themselves and feel like they are constantly being attacked by those around them.

As a result, they will not be able to build good relationships with the people around you.

3 There are no enemies. Everyone is just fighting self-denial.

Instead of labeling them as jerks, consider their situation and sympathize with why they are acting the way they are. Try to see the good in others.

However, you don’t have to agree with them even when you consider their situation. It is not your fault if they are in a bad mood.

4 When you get frustrated, that’s when your bias comes to light.

I have to do this, but the people around me don’t do this. But sometimes people around me seem living more comfortably. The idea that you have to do something is just an assumption. If you think, “I have this option, but I want to do this,” you won’t be irritated by the people around you.

5 Selfishness is trying to use others to make yourself happy. To take care of yourself means to make yourself happy by yourself.